"For too long the term domestic violence has been used as a "soft" term which suggests it emerges in an intimate context that is private and somehow … - bell hooks

Revolutionary feminism embraces men who are able to change, who are capable of responding mutually in a subject-to-subject encounter where desire and fulfillment are in no way linked to coercive subjugation. This feminist vision of the sexual imaginary is the space few men seem able to enter.

And I was already on my way to being a true freak because I knew I would always choose to go where my blood beats, in any and all directions.

Dominator culture has tried to keep us all afraid, to make us choose safety instead of risk, sameness instead of diversity. Moving through that fear, finding out what connects us, revelling in our differences; this is the process that brings us closer, that gives us a world of shared values, of meaningful community.