When we depress, we believe we are the victims of a feeling over which we have no control. - William Glasser

The Seven Deadly Habits of External Control: Blaming, Criticizing, Complaining, Nagging, Threatening, Punishing, and Bribing (Rewarding to Control).

We almost always have choices, and the better the choice, the more we will be in control of our lives.

If you depend on the widespread lover's delusion, 'With my love he or she will change,' you have little chance to help yourself. This delusion is external control to the maximum. If things are not good from the beginning, they are very likely to change, but not for the better.