I think you've already said the wrong thing by not saying anything. - Vernā Myers

We have so many ways to favor those in the "in group" while excluding those who aren't, including keeping them in their place with subtle but often intentional "micro inequities." Regardless of the intention, the pain and the impact is the same.

After musicians started auditioning for orchestras from behind curtains, "the number of women in top U.S. orchestras increased five-fold.

It would be nice to be [treated by the majority group like] an individual, and not the spokesperson or cultural resource for your people.