At the end of the day it's not about me. It's what can somebody do with the lessons that I learned. If there's part of my story that I can share — … - Carey Lohrenz

All I wanted desperately was just to blend in and be a fighter pilot, not a female fighter pilot, she says. The plane doesn't know what gender you are. The plane just wants to fly.

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I wanted to fly fighters because those pilots were the cream of the crop,” she says. “I thought to myself, Well, it takes about two years to get through this program. So maybe by the time I’m done, they will have lifted the law.”