[Success as panacea and trap:] The less a man is willing to give up a sex object, the more he’ll be trapped into becoming a success object. - Warren Farrell

The Japanese boys’ unconscious wisdom is: their dad as winner is really their dad as loser.

In the United States, by eighth grade, 41 percent of girls are at least “proficient” in writing, while only 20 percent of boys are.

Nothing threatens a father’s involvement in the family more than his obligation to be the family’s “financial womb,” creating “The Father’s ‘Catch-22’”: loving the family by being away from the family. It is the irony of traditional fatherhood: being a father by not being a father.