Warren Farrell Quotes

When a man is forced into early retirement, he is often being ‘given up for a younger man.’ Being forced into early retirement can be to a man what being ‘given up for a younger woman’ is for a woman… Why do many men get more upset by retirement than women do from the empty nest —when their children leave home? When females retire from children, they can try a career; when a man retires from a career, his children are gone.

The word “warrior” is not added lightly. A warrior makes himself aware of the barriers to achieving his purpose. Then, rather than focus on what is standing in his way, a warrior focuses on how to get past those barriers. Which is exactly what he’ll be teaching his children.

Most rapes of men occur in prison. But even outside of prison, about 9 percent of reported rapes are against men (probably mostly by men, but no one knows for sure). Even rape outside of prison, then, is about as significant an issue for men as AIDS is for women—about 10 percent of the people dying of AIDS are women. Do we hear more about men being raped or about women getting AIDS?

Parade magazine announces that 40 million Soviet men were killed between 1914 and 1945. The magazine’s headline reads ‘Short End of the Stick’. Because men died? No. The women were seen as getting the short end of the stick because they were stuck with factory and street-cleaner positions the men weren’t around to do.

When I eat a meal, I think of all the people whose labor has contributed to my nourishment, and that thought nourishes my appreciation. I hope it nourishes you too.

The more chauvinist the country, the more it protects women. And therefore the more it limits women. Like the United States, [Italy, Spain, and Denmark] give women options without obligations. These countries are, therefore, still male chauvinist… The degree to which a country is emancipated is the degree to which it frees men from the obligation to protect women and socializes women to equally protect men.

When we give trust, we receive trust. And people who trust us pay attention to us.

Teaching the child to treat boundaries seriously teaches the child to respect the rights and needs of others. Thinking of another’s needs creates empathy.

Killing the criticizer, then, is part of our evolutionary past; listening in response to criticism is part of our evolutionary future.

Note the men’s fear that if they reported this to the authorities, not only would they not be believed, they would be ridiculed.

Your son may simultaneously feel that the male role is pressuring him to feel obligated to earn money someone else spends while he dies sooner.

Many of the qualities your son develops to kill in war—or be a hero at work—undermine the qualities it takes to love at home.

We teach boys to associate being abused with being loved.

• Hazing is both testing and training to subordinate self to the team.

If we want our children to have a balance between their abilities to earn money and show love, it will help if both their parents model that balance. – page 114.