Warren Farrell Quotes

Men learn to call pain “glory”; women learn to call the police.

We have taught boys that, while building strength is considered masculine, preventing its loss is feminine.

What makes a teenage boy’s anxiety so overwhelming is that a teenage boy’s socialization is the demand to perform without the resources to perform. As a result, not only are his risks many, but his failures many. And so apparent… Second, the biggest winners—the football players—are receiving love via self-abuse. For some boys, receiving love via self-abuse creates anxiety. But losing love creates even more anxiety.

If he followed his bliss, it’s the money you’d miss.

Imagine how we would feel if I began this section saying, Today, violence against women is rightly applauded. We would know I favored the death of women; when we applaud for violence against men, we favor the death of men. We do it because we have learned that the more effectively we prepare men to sacrifice themselves, the more we are protected.

Men are not only women's unpaid bodyguards, they actually pay to be a woman's bodyguard.

Fear of emotional contact with men out of fear of being a sexual suspect makes boys, ironically, even more powerless before girls. Homophobia is like telling the United States it will be a sissy nation if it doesn’t get all its oil from OPEC.

If we want our children to have a balance between their abilities to earn money and show love, it will help if both their parents model that balance. – page 114.