Warren Farrell Quotes

Shifting our attitudes about the future of fathers requires shifting our attitudes about the way our fathers loved. Recognizing that the rigid roles of the past were not designed by men to serve only men is not unrelated to shifting our attitudes toward dad.

The more survival is at stake, the more we say, “Sorry, it’s a girl.” The more luxury we feel, the more we can say, “Sorry, it’s a boy.”

Both bullies and the bullied have three things in common: both come from negative family, school, and community environments; both have low self-esteem; and both have poor social skills.

When the house is clean and the bills are paid, the effort our partner makes to keep things the same are invisible exactly because things are the same.

From the male perspective, when commitment is associated with diamonds and mortgages, promises of love can feel like promises of payment.

Men for whom divorce means walking out of their children’s lives except when they choose to see the children are the male equivalent of the adolescent feminists: men who want options without obligations. Morally, they have no right to walk out. A law that allows that is similarly immoral. “Primary Parent” laws are just such laws.

Together, we came to understand how we beg men to express feelings, but then when men do express feelings, we call it sexism, male chauvinism, or backlash.

Even allegedly gender-neutral words like “sexist” imply slights only against women.

Helping men express feelings starts with understanding why men don’t express them.

Many veterans are “rough, tough cream puffs.”

Anticipating “the end of men” is not exactly an inspiration for your son’s life journey.

As I looked more carefully at the listening matrix I saw that during the past twenty years we had taken a magnifying glass to the first of these four quadrants, the female experience of powerlessness. I saw I was subconsciously making a false assumption: The more deeply I understood women's experience of powerlessness, the more I assumed men had the power women did not have. In fact, what I was understanding was the female experience of male power.

Dads were user-friendly for companies, because they could most easily be used.

Unemployment to a man is the psychological equivalent of rape to a woman.

The more a boy represses his feelings and puts armor around his heart, the harder it is to open our hearts to him.