In any case, when we avoid the legitimate suffering that results from dealing with problems, we also avoid the growth that problems demand from us. I… - M. Scott Peck

When we avoid the legitimate suffering that results from dealing with problems, we also avoid the growth that problems demand from us.

While this is obvious, it is something that most people to a greater or lesser degree choose to ignore. They ignore it because our route to reality is not easy. First of all, we are not born with maps; we have to make them, and the making requires effort. The more effort we make to appreciate and perceive reality, the larger and more accurate our maps will be. But many do not want to make this effort. Some stop making it by the end of adolescence. Their maps are small and sketchy, their views of the world narrow and misleading. By the end of middle age most people have given up the effort. They feel certain that their maps are complete and their Weltanschauung is correct (indeed, even sacrosanct), and they are no longer interested in new information. It is as if they are tired. Only a relative and fortunate few continue until the moment of death exploring the mystery of reality, ever enlarging and refining and redefining their understanding of the world and what is true.

The best decision-makers are those who are willing to suffer the most over their decisions but still retain their ability to be decisive.

And I know that I and anyone else who is not mentally defective can solve any problem if we are willing to take the time.