I am what happens between the maternity ward and the Crematorium - Alan Watts

Tools such as these, as well as the tools of language and thought, are of real use to men only if they are awake — not lost in the dreamland of past and future, but in the closest touch with that point of experience where reality can alone be discovered: this moment.

[L]ife and death are in conflict only in the mind which creates a war between them out of its own desires and fears. In fact life and death are not opposed but complementary, being the two essential factors of a greater life that is made up of living and dying just as melody is produced by the sounding and silencing of individual notes.

To remain stable is to refrain from trying to separate yourself from a pain because you know that you cannot. Running away from fear is fear, fighting pain is pain, trying to be brave is being scared. If the mind is in pain, the mind is pain. The thinker has no other form than his thought. There is no escape. But so long as you are not aware of the inseparability of thinker and thought, you will try to escape.