Discipline isn’t willpower, it’s prioritization. You don’t push through a hangover. You skip the night out. You don’t force yourself to exercise, you… - Mark Manson

Learn to go first. Introduce yourself. Ask them out. Host the event. Voice an idea. Tell people what you want.

You’ll face more rejections when things go wrong, but you’ll get all of the credit when things go right. The world rewards those who go first because so few people do.

The more something threatens your identity the more you will avoid it .

Like physical pain, our psychological pain is an indication of something out of equilibrium, some limitation that has been exceeded. And like our physical pain, our psychological pain is not necessarily always bad or even undesirable.