If they love their children parents must, sparingly and carefully perhaps but nonetheless actively, confront and criticize them from time to time, ju… - M. Scott Peck

Similarly, loving spouses must repeatedly confront each other if the marriage relationship is to serve the function of promoting the spiritual growth of the partners. No marriage can be judged truly successful unless husband and wife are each other’s best critics.

Mental health is an ongoing process of dedication to reality at all costs.

We are daily bombarded with new information as to the nature of reality. If we are to incorporate this information, we must continually revise our maps, and sometimes when enough new information has accumulated, we must make very major revisions. The process of making revisions, particularly major revisions, is painful, sometimes excruciatingly painful. And herein lies the major source of many of the ills of mankind.

Balancing is a discipline precisely because the act of giving something up is painful.