Our hearts connect with lots of folks in a lifetime but most of us will go to our graves with no experience of true love. - bell hooks

When the environment you live in and know most intimately does not place value on loving, a spiritual life provides a place of solace and renewal.

When we are taught that safety lies always with sameness, then difference, of any kind, will appear as a threat

Romance is different when two people approach each other from the space of knowledge rather than absolute mystery. No matter how well we get to know someone else, there is always a realm of mystery. Old ideas about romantic love taught females and males to believe that erotic tension depended on the absence of communication and understanding. This misinformation about the nature of love has helped to further the politics of domination, particularly male domination of women. Without knowing one other, we can never experience intimacy.