the more firmly you believe it ought to be possible to find time for everything, the less pressure you'll feel to ask whether any given activity is t… - Oliver Burkeman

We seek the fulfilment of strong romantic relationships and friendships, yet striving too hard to achieve security in such relationships stifles them; their flourishing depends on a certain degree of not being protected, of being open to experiences both negative and positive.

I came to understand that happiness and vulnerability are often the same thing.

The problem with trying to make time for everything that feels important — or just for enough of what feels important — is that you definitely never will. The reason isn't that you haven't yet discovered the right time management tricks or supplied sufficient effort, or that you need to start getting up earlier, or that you're generally useless. It's that the underlying assumption is unwarranted: there's no reason to believe you'll ever feel 'on top of things,' or make time for everything that matters, simply by getting more done.