I have both some good news and some bad news for you: there is little that is unique or special about your problems. That’s why letting go is so libe… - Mark Manson

Learn to go first. Introduce yourself. Ask them out. Host the event. Voice an idea. Tell people what you want.

You’ll face more rejections when things go wrong, but you’ll get all of the credit when things go right. The world rewards those who go first because so few people do.

Being unhealthy is painful, being healthy is painful, having no relationships is painful, having relationships is painful, being lazy is painful, working really hard is painful. It's just different flavors of pain.
So you might as well pick the flavors of pain that are gonna help you and give you a better set of life.

...the problem is that giving too many fucks is
bad for your mental health.