Influence guru Professor Robert Cialdini says that not only is reciprocity one of the key elements of being influential and winning favor with others… - Eric Barker

The second reason is that schools reward being a generalist. There is little recognition of student passion or expertise. The real world, however, does the reverse.

The study came up with four metrics that matter most: 1.​HAPPINESS: having feelings of pleasure or contentment in and about your life 2.​ACHIEVEMENT: achieving accomplishments that compare favorably against similar goals others have strived for 3.​SIGNIFICANCE: having a positive impact on people you care about 4.​LEGACY: establishing your values or accomplishments in ways that help others find future success They also came up with a simple way to interpret the feelings these four need to provide in your life: 1.​HAPPINESS = ENJOYING 2.​ACHIEVEMENT = WINNING 3.​SIGNIFICANCE = COUNTING (TO OTHERS) 4.​LEGACY = EXTENDING

a healthy mind tells itself flattering lies.