Those of us who grow up in a system thinking, ‘All I have do is perform, and my performance will speak for itself’ can actually be left behind, - Carey Lohrenz

Anything great that you’re going to want to accomplish is going to involve fear and discomfort, and making other people uncomfortable,” she says. “But you have to go for it anyway. That’s how you make a difference.”

It was big, it was heavy and it tended to be slightly underpowered,” Lohrenz says. “You’re coming across the back end of that aircraft carrier, going about 165 miles an hour, and you slam down on that deck and come to a complete stop in just under 1.2 seconds.”

When you hear these little comments, whether it's about your fingernail polish or your hair or what you're wearing at the time, it can feel like the slow drop of Chinese water torture, Lohrenz recalls. When you're there to fly this magnificent fighter jet, it chips away at you.