Optimizing your life for optionality creates a false sense of growth. You feel like you’re adding more potential to your life, but all you’re doing… - Mark Manson

You crave honesty from others but fear it from yourself.

The act of choosing a value for yourself requires rejecting alternative values. If I choose to make my marriage the most important part of my life, that means I’m (probably) choosing not to make cocaine-fueled hooker orgies an important part of my life. If I’m choosing to judge myself based on my ability to have open and accepting friendships, that means I’m rejecting trashing my friends behind their backs. These are all healthy decisions, yet they require rejection at every turn. The point is this: we all must give a fuck about something, in order to value something. And to value something, we must reject what is not that something. To value X, we must reject non-X.

A better life starts with a better filter. Change who and what you allow into your world, and the peace will follow.