Confidence is really just the ability to unapologetically like yourself. - Mark Manson

When our highest priority is to always make ourselves feel good, or to always make our partner feel good, then nobody ends up feeling good. And our relationship falls apart without our even knowing it. Without conflict, there can be no trust. Conflict exists to show us who is there for us unconditionally and who is just there for the benefits. No one trusts a yes-man. If Disappointment Panda were here, he’d tell you that the pain in our relationship is necessary to cement our trust in each other and produce greater intimacy.

Most problems aren’t problems. They’re just expectations you haven’t let go of yet.

Being unhealthy is painful, being healthy is painful, having no relationships is painful, having relationships is painful, being lazy is painful, working really hard is painful. It's just different flavors of pain.
So you might as well pick the flavors of pain that are gonna help you and give you a better set of life.