We become what we hear and see and do every day. - Meg Jay

Researchers who have looked at how people resolve identity crises have found that lives that are all capital and no crisis — all work and no exploration — feel rigid and conventional.

There is a certain terror that goes along with saying “My life is up to me.” It is scary to realize there’s no magic, you can’t just wait around, no one can really rescue you, and you have to do something. Not knowing what you want to do with your life — or not at least having some ideas about what to do next — is a defense against that terror. It is a resistance to admitting that the possibilities are not endless. It is a way of pretending that now doesn’t matter. Being confused about choices is nothing more than hoping that maybe there is a way to get through life without taking charge. Rather than take charge,

Doing something later is not automatically the same as doing something better