I have discovered from personal experience that one can win the attention and time and cooperation of even the most sought-after people by becoming g… - Dale Carnegie

Become genuinely interested in other people.

If you can be sure of being right only 55 percent of the time, you can go down to Wall Street and make a million dollars a day. If you can’t be sure of being right even 55 percent of the time, why should you tell other people they are wrong?

Peruse this bit of sage advice from the essayist and publisher Elbert Hubbard....
Whenever you go out-of-doors, draw the chin in, carry the crown of the head high, and fill the lungs to the utmost; drink in the sunshine; greet your friends with a smile, and put soul into every hand clasp. Do not fear being misunderstood and do not waste a minute thinking about your enemies. Try to fix firmly in your mind what you would like to do; and then, without veering off direction, you will move straight to the goal. Keep your mind on the great and splendid things you would like to do, and then, as the days go gliding away, you will find yourself unconsciously seizing upon the opportunities that are required for the fulfillment of your desire....

استمعت وشاركت وراقبت أثر آلاف المجادلات , وخلصت الى ان هناك نتيجه واحدة فقط لكسب الجدل وهي ان تتجنبيه كليه . تجنبيه مثلما تتجنبين الثعابين والزلازل “.

“لا يمكنك كسب جدل , وحتى ان كسبتيه , فسوف تخسرين . لماذا ؟ لأنك حتى ان حملت شخصا على رفع رايه الاستسلام البيضاء فإن هذا لا يعني انك قد غيرت وجهه نظرة. وانما سوف تكونين فقط قد نجحت في انهاكه الى الحد الذي جعله عاجزا عن مواصله الحديث. جادلي وواصلي جدلك وسوف تترسخ حقيقتان لا ثالث لهما في نفس خصمك وهما انك مخطئه وبغيضه . انه نصر أجوف . حتى ان نجحت في اقتناصه لأنك لن تكسبي ابدا احترام الطرف الآخر” .