For true love to be there, you need to feel complete in yourself, not needing something from outside. - Thích Nhất Hạnh

Our capacity to make peace with another person and with the world depends very much on our capacity to make peace with ourselves.

If we want to reconcile with our family or with friends who have hurt us, we have to take care of ourselves first. If we’re not capable of listening to ourselves, how can we listen to another person? If we don’t know how to recognise our own suffering, it won’t be possible to bring peace and harmony into our relationships.

When you see the suffering inside yourself, you can see the suffering in the other person, and you can see your part, your responsibility, in creating the suffering in yourself and in the other person.