Kindly let me help you or you will drown said the monkey putting the fish safely up a tree. - Alan Watts

Trying to define yourself is like trying to bite your own teeth.

Indeed, the power of words has gone to man’s head in more than one way. To define has come to mean almost the same thing as to understand.

What we see as death,
empty space, or nothingness is only the trough between the crests of this
endlessly waving ocean. It is all part of the illusion that there should
seem to be something to be gained in the future, and that there is an
urgent necessity to go on and on until we get it. Yet just as there is no
time but the present, and no one except the all-and-everything, there is
never anything to be gained — though the zest of the game is to pretend
that there is.