Human beings evolved needing two key types of environments: high stress and high recovery - Benjamin P. Hardy

You can’t overcome an addiction through willpower. You can’t change your life on your own. You need other people. You need to learn to trust others. Transformation can only occur through collaboration, which requires two or more people. The whole becomes more than the sum of its parts. Rather than trying to “author” yourself, you give yourself wholly to another person and dedicate yourself to a cause you believe in. Said psychologist Viktor E. Frankl:

She needs to decide what she wants and begin moving forward. With progress — even minuscule progress — her clarity and confidence will increase, opening the door for greater flexibility and change.

In The Big Leap, Dr. Gay Hendricks explains these two models as Newtonian Time versus Einstein Time, Einstein time assumes you are where time comes from. You can make as much of it as you want. Newtonian times, assumes there’s a scarcity of time, which leads to an uncomfortable feeling of time urgency inside us. And we think that what is “out there” is causing the feelings “in here.”25