To anyone who owns their mistakes and learns from their failures, I salute you. - Mark Manson

values cannot be changed through reason, only through experience.

Shitty values involve tangible external goals outside of our control. Better values are process-oriented.

The uncomfortable truth is that the majority of women are going to have high degrees of friction and projection when you meet them. With most of the women you meet, things are simply not going to work no matter what you do or say. This is to be expected. And this is fine. You are going to be incompatible with most of the women in the world and to hold any hopes of being highly compatible with most is an illusion of grandeur and a figment of your own narcissistic tendency.