Men may be way behind in creating choices for themselves, but have actually been quiet supporters of the choices women want for themselves. - Warren Farrell

When I was doing a book tour in Japan for Why Men Are The Way They Are, I was told of an institution called the snack. The snack works like this: A man is coming home from work, and has had a bad day. He doesn’t feel that his wife wants to hear about it, so he pays between $50 and $80 for a snack —a sandwich and a drink and an attractive woman who will listen empathetically to him—sort of a beautiful psychologist with refreshments. No men need apply.

With men, we blame the victim. We blame men because we have camouflaged men’s victimization by teaching men to also be the victimizer. Men’s victimizer status camouflages men’s victim status.

We spend billions to get from dads the money few of them have, and virtually nothing to allow dads to give the time they do have—the time their children need.