One cannot read a novel without ascribing to the heroine the traits of the one we love. - Alain de Botton

The only people we can think of as normal are those we don't yet know very well.

Our exertions generally find no enduring physical correlatives. We are diluted in gigantic intangible collective projects, which leave us wondering what we did last year and, more profoundly, where we have gone and quite what we have amounted to....

How different everything is for the craftsman who ... can step back at the end of a day or lifetime and point to an object — whether a square of canvas, a chair or a clay jug — and see it as a stable repository of his skills and an accurate record of his years, and hence feel collected together in one place, rather than strung out across projects which long ago evaporated into nothing one could hold or see.

it seems impossible to talk of love and letting live, and if we are left to live, we are not usually loved.