If someone wishes to alter a relationship, they must discuss it with the other person, negotiate the change, and listen to the other person’s account… - Sarah Schulman

It is our moral obligation as human beings who share this time and this place to not punish, but rather to remain calm, to open up communication, and to place our hands gently on each other’s shoulders and say, “Think twice.”

Safety is an acquisition of power, often dependent on unjust structures of subjugation to satisfy the threatened person or group’s need for control. Normativity itself is dependent on the diminishment of others. We know now that determining punishment by the feelings of one party is the essence of injustice.

We are suffering, and if we could all acknowledge that suffering has content, we could all understand, as a community, somewhat better how to help each other.