If you do not know what you feel, then it is difficult to choose love; it is better to fall. Then you do not have to be responsible for your actions. - bell hooks

The transformative power of love is not fully embraced in our society because we often wrongly believe that torment and anguish are our ‘natural’ condition.

"I will not have my life narrowed down. I will not bow down to somebody else's whim or to someone else's ignorance".

It is my deep belief that in talking about the past, in understanding the things that have happened to us we can heal and go forward. Some people believe that it is best to put the past behind you, to never speak about the events that have happened that have hurt or wounded us, and this is their way of coping — but coping is not healing. By confronting the past without shame we are free of its hold on us.