If someone is determined not to risk pain, then such a person must do without many things: [...] - all that makes life alive, meaningful and signific… - M. Scott Peck

A life of total dedication to the truth also means a life of willingness to be personally challenged.

I gave examples from my clinical practice of how love was not wholly a thought or feeling. I told of how that very evening there would be some man sitting at a bar in the local village, crying into his beer and sputtering to the bartender how much he loved his wife and children while at the same time he was wasting his family's money and depriving them of his attention. We recounted how this man was thinking love and feeling love — were they not real tears in his eyes? — but he was not in truth behaving with love.

The best decision-makers are those who are willing to suffer the most over their decisions but still retain their ability to be decisive.