You must be one man, either good or bad. You must cultivate either your own ruling faculty or externals, and apply yourself either to things within o… - Epictetus

He wants what he cannot have, and does not want what he can't refuse — and isn't aware of it. He doesn't know the difference between his own possessions and others'. Because, if he did, he would never be thwarted of disappointed.
Or nervous.

that is where you will see true progress embodied, and find someone who has not wasted their time making the journey here from home.

Transfer caution to the will and the functions of the will, and the mere wish will bring with it the power of avoidance. But if we direct it at what is outside us and is none of our responsibility, wanting instead to avoid what’s in the control of others, we are necessarily going to meet with fear, upset and confusion.