as the journalist Anne Helen Petersen writes in a widely shared essay on millennial burnout, you can't fix such problems "with vacation, or an adult … - Oliver Burkeman

The point is certainly not that it's better not to have money, say, than it is to have it. But it's surely undeniable that if you don't have it, it's much harder to overinvest emotionally in it. The same goes for prestigious jobs, material possessions, or impressive educational qualifications: when you have little chance of obtaining them, you won't be misled into thinking they bring more happiness than they do.

It is alarming to consider how many major life decisions we take primarily in order to minimise present-moment emotional discomfort.

The unconscious is the repository of everything that we're avoiding.