The problem with the self-esteem movement is that it measured self-esteem by how positively people felt about themselves. But a true and accurate mea… - Mark Manson

But a true and accurate measurement of one’s self-worth is how people feel about the negative aspects of themselves.

For individuals to feel justified in doing horrible things to other people, they must feel an unwavering certainty in their own righteousness, in their own beliefs and deservedness. Racists do racist things because they’re certain about their genetic superiority. Religious fanatics blow themselves up and murder dozens of people because they’re certain of their place in heaven as martyrs. Men rape and abuse women out of their certainty that they’re entitled to women’s bodies. Evil people never believe that they are evil; rather, they believe that everyone else is evil.

Wanting positive experience is a negative experience; accepting negative experience is a positive experience.

Change is terrifying, until you do it. Then it’s just your new normal.