People don’t fear change. They fear loss. The loss of comfort. The loss of certainty. The loss of who they thought they were. - Mark Manson

A fixation on happiness inevitably amounts to a never-ending pursuit of “something else” — a new house, a new relationship, another child, another pay raise. And despite all of our sweat and strain, we end up feeling eerily similar to how we started: inadequate. Psychologists sometimes refer to this concept as the “hedonic treadmill”: the idea that we’re always working hard to change our life situation, but we actually never feel very different.

Our most radical changes in perspective often happen at the tail end of our worst moments.

It’s only when we feel intense pain that we’re willing to look at our values and question why they seem to be failing us.

I have both some good news and some bad news for you: there is little that is unique or special about your problems. That’s why letting go is so liberating.