To become happier, wiser, and more loving, sometimes you have to swim against ancient currents within your nervous system. For example, in some ways … - Rick Hanson

it’s the needs we push away that are often the most important to embrace. So try to be aware of needs, or aspects of needs, that have been unmet. Listen to the longings of your heart. As you go through your day, be mindful of your needs for: • Safety.

To do Linking, a person must be able to hold two things in awareness, keep the positive material more prominent, and not get hijacked by the negative. Practicing mindfulness will increase your capacity to do these things. If you get pulled into the negative, drop it and focus only on the positive. Later on, you can allow the negative to come back alongside the positive in awareness. Most experiences of Linking are fairly brief, under half a minute, but you can take longer if you like.

Mammals, including us, become friendly, playful, curious, and creative when they feel safe, satisfied, and connected.