■​If I can hide my flaws and become what I think others want me to be, then I will be loved, get my needs met, and have a problem-free life - Robert A. Glover

"all Nice Guys developed the same paradigm: "If I am good, then I will be loved, get my needs met, and have a problem-free life.

Relationships are messy and there is no way to eliminate the bumps and potholes, but we don't have to make them any more difficult than they already are.

there is plenty for everyone. Everything we need is flowing by us — all we have to do is get out of the way of our own small thinking and let it come.

As a result of this dependency, every child's greatest fear is abandonment. To children, abandonment means death. Second,