Quotes about Guilt

This was not guilt: guilt is what you feel when you have done something wrong. What I felt was shame: I was what was wrong.

Guilt is what you should feel when you did something that wasn't right. Shame is the thing you carry that says you'll never be worthy of love again. I can't live in shame anymore.

Guilt starts as a feeling of failure.

Guilt is often an emotion we carry from childhood and then project onto current circumstances when we felt as though we were burdens to those around us.

When we apologize for something we’ve done, make amends, or change a behavior that doesn’t align with our values, guilt — not shame — is most often the driving force. We feel guilty when we hold up something we’ve done or failed to do against our values and find they don’t match up. It’s an uncomfortable feeling, but one that’s helpful. The psychological discomfort, something similar to cognitive dissonance, is what motivates meaningful change. Guilt is just as powerful as shame, but its influence is positive, while shame’s is destructive. In fact, in my research I found that shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we can change and do better.

Being guilty tends to engender feelings of guilt.

Remorse is the pain of sin.

It went without saying that he felt guilty about what had happened, but married friends had assured him that guilt was the cornerstone of any good marriage. It meant that a conscience was at work, values were held in high esteem, and reasons to feel guilty were best avoided whenever possible.

The point is this: guilt must not be allowed to fester in the silence of the soul, poisoning it from within. It needs to be confessed. Through confession, we bring it into the light, we place it within Christ’s purifying love (cf. Jn 3:20-21). In confession, the Lord washes our soiled feet over and over again and prepares us for table fellowship with him.

Guilt is not a moral compass. It's a feeling that shows up whether or not you did anything wrong. Leaders who confuse the two spend their careers deciding based on who might be upset instead of what's actually right.

Some people confess guilt to claim credit for the sin.

Regret is a disposition for returning to God,

As a general rule, most "regrets" after one is caught's aren't regrets about having committed the action, but regrets about having been caught. Apologies count only when they are spontaneous, coming out of deep principles. Otherwise they are just an expression of submission.

Regret is a spiritual scar.

I felt a sense of shame like a burning ulcer. This was not guilt: guilt is what you feel when you have done something wrong. What I felt was shame: I was what was wrong.