David Kessler Quotes

Saya percaya jika sebuah buku tidak berdampak pada penulisnya, buku tersebut tidak akan berdampak pada orang lain.

When it comes to food, we are, in essence, following an eating script that has been written into the circuits of our brains.

grief is optional in this lifetime. Yes, it's true. You don't have to experience grief, but you can only avoid it by avoiding love. Love and grief are inextricably intertwined.

"Your pain will not always be like this," I told her. "It will change." This is a message that the grieving need to hear, and in the moment of saying it, I often observe a shift. The person looks up at me and says, "It will?" And he or she suddenly becomes lighter.

There is no greater gift you can give someone in grief than to ask them about their loved one, and then truly listen. When we see our sorrow in the eyes of another, we know our grief has meaning. We get a glimpse, maybe for the first time since the loss, that we will survive, and a future is possible.

The time will come when memory will bring a smile to your lips before it brings a tear to your eyes." That's how it goes: pain first, meaning later.

Heaven and hell offer the same circumstances and conditions. The difference is in the way people treat each other. Choosing to be kind creates one kind of reality. Choosing to be self-centered creates another.

After all my years working with the dying and the grieving, I have found that in this lifetime, the ultimate meaning we find is in everyone we have loved.

the reality is posttraumatic growth happens more than posttraumatic stress.

Each person's grief is as unique as their fingerprint. But what everyone has in common is that no matter how they grieve, they share a need for their grief to be witnessed. That doesn't mean needing someone to try to lessen it or reframe it for them. The need is for someone to be fully present to the magnitude of their loss without trying to point out the silver lining.

Repeating the story is often a griever's subconscious way of trying to get much-needed attention.

Years before we knew how to make it happen, President Kennedy said we would go to the moon. Louise Hay talked about the importance of our words to create actions. You can't just wake up and see if today is the day you'll act. Yoda from Star Wars was correct: "Do or do not, there is no try." Even a small decision makes a difference.

Love and grief come as a package deal. If you love, you will one day know sorrow.

People often say, "I don't know how you're doing it." I tell them that I'm not. I'm not deciding to wake up in the morning. I just do. Then I put one foot in front of the other because there's nothing else to do. Whether I like it or not, my life is continuing, and I have decided to be part of it.

3) Writing Prompt:

Some traits I hold dear about myself today were born from adaptations to my deepest wounds and emotional conflicts. These traits, born from struggle, are not less valuable. They are a testament to our resilience and strength and deserve our acceptance and appreciation.

Take a moment to delve into a trait that you have come to appreciate about yourself. Can you trace its origin to a time of deep pain or struggle? This journey of self-discovery is a powerful tool for personal growth.