If you want to improve, be content to be thought foolish and stupid with regard to external things. Don't wish to be thought to know anything; and ev… - Epictetus

if you shall seem to some to be a person of importance, distrust yourself.

Remind yourself, “What upsets this person is their opinion of what has happened. Another in the same circumstance, taking a different perspective, would react quite differently.” Do not share these thoughts with the grieving person. Sympathize with them — even cry with them. Your tears will be outward, not inward.

Remember to act always as if you were at a symposium. When the food or drink comes around, reach out and take some politely; if it passes you by don't try to pulling it back. And if it has not reached you yet, don't let your desire run ahead of you, be patient until your turn comes.

grammar will tell you how to write; but whether to write or not, grammar will not tell.