Intimacy is directly proportional to the willingness of two people to be hurt by one another. - Mark Manson

People with strong boundaries understand that it's unreasonable to expect two people to accommodate each other 100 percent and fulfill every need the other has. People with strong boundaries understand that they may hurt someone's feelings sometimes, but ultimately they can't determine how other people feel. People with strong boundaries understand that a healthy relationship is not about controlling one another's emotions, but rather about each partner supporting the other in their individual growth and in solving their own problems.

It's not about giving a fuck about everything your partner gives a fuck about. It's about giving a fuck about your partner regardless of the fucks he or she gives. That's unconditional love baby.

The truth is that there’s no such thing as a personal problem. If you’ve got a problem, chances are millions of other people have had it in the past, have it now, and are going to have it in the future. Likely people you know too. That doesn’t minimize the problem or mean that it shouldn’t hurt. It doesn’t mean you aren’t legitimately a victim in some circumstances

يقوم الحب غير الصحي على وجود شخصين يحاولان الهرب من مشكلاتهما عن طريق العواطف والمشاعر تجاه أحدهما الآخر . وبكلمات أخرى، يستخدم كل منهما الآخر مهربًا له . أما الحب الصحي فهو قائم على وجود شخصين يعرف كل منهما مشكلاته ويقر بها ويتعامل معها بمعونة من الشخص الآخر .