When we feel that we’re choosing our problems, we feel empowered. When we feel that our problems are being forced upon us against our will, we feel v… - Mark Manson

You must love someone without expecting anything in return; otherwise it’s not truly love. You must respect someone without expecting anything in return; otherwise you don’t truly respect him. You must speak honestly without expecting a pat on the back or a high-five or a gold star next to your name; otherwise you aren’t truly being honest.

You don’t feel loved until you trust that the love being expressed toward you comes without any special conditions or baggage attached to it.

that rather than attempting to implement, often through lethal force, their conceptual self across the world, people should question their conceptual self and become more comfortable with the reality of their own death. Becker called this “the bitter antidote,” and