To be an oppressor is dehumanizing and anti-human in nature, as it is to be a victim. - bell hooks

Love allows us to confront these negative realities in a manner that is life-affirming and life enhancing.

If any female feels she need anything beyond herself to legitimate and validate her existence, she is already giving away her power to be self-defining, her agency.

Dominator culture has tried to keep us all afraid, to make us choose safety instead of risk, sameness instead of diversity. Moving through that fear, finding out what connects us, revelling in our differences; this is the process that brings us closer, that gives us a world of shared values, of meaningful community.