Another person will not hurt you without your cooperation; you are hurt the moment you believe yourself to be.

Sometimes it hurts the most to be who you are

if someone says they’re hurt by your actions, you must believe they’re hurt; you can’t decide for them whether or not they felt hurt in the first place.

There are many ways that we hurt ourselves when we don’t like who we are.

Do you know what it feels like to be wounded
and told that you caused the
wound to yourself by choosing to be
where
the harm landed?

There are many ways that we hurt ourselves when we don't like who we are.

Sometimes when we think we’re protecting ourselves, we’re really hurting ourselves. And sometimes the people around us too.

You become the thing that hurts you until it can hurt you no more.

It’s not thinking that hurts, it’s thinking about yourself that hurts.

You can't think decently if you're not willing to hurt yourself

If you take people to be what they think themselves to be, you will only hurt them as they hurt themselves so grievously all the time. But if you see them as they are in reality, it will do them enormous good.

It hurts to love. It's like giving yourself to be flayed and knowing that at any moment the other person may just walk off with your skin.

Then you must reconcile yourself to the fact that something is always hurt by any change. If you do this, you will not be hurt yourself.

We only hurt ourselves when we hide our realness away.