women, security means not having to guess what a man is thinking or where he wants to go. Furthermore, it means not having to take responsibility for… - Robert A. Glover

What gets us into trouble is not what don’t know. It’s what we know for sure that just ain’t so.” - Mark Twain

"In an attempt to cope with their childhood abandonment experiences, all Nice Guys developed the same paradigm: "If I am good, then I will be loved, get my needs met, and have a problem-free life." Unfortunately, this paradigm not only produces the opposite of what is desired, it guarantees nothing but feelings of perpetual powerlessness."

Helpless, whiny, wimpy, and needy are not attractive on a man. Confidence and self-assurance are attractive. Most folks are attracted to men who have a sense of self. Putting the self first doesn’t drive people away, it attracts them. Putting the self first is essential for getting what one wants in love and life.