Since Nice Guys learned to sacrifice themselves in order to survive, recovery must center on learning to put themselves first and making their needs … - Robert A. Glover

The unpredictability of not having their needs met in a timely, judicious fashion was not only frightening, it was potentially life-threatening.

"Decisions are now made by one individual, rather than by a committee. He no longer has to mind read, predict, or try to please multiple voices with conflicting agendas. When putting himself first all the information he needs to make a decision is within him: "Is this what I want? Yes. Then that's what I'll do.

there is plenty for everyone. Everything we need is flowing by us — all we have to do is get out of the way of our own small thinking and let it come.