Relationships are not safeguards against loneliness. You can’t whittle yourself down to being as nice and accepting and likable as possible in order … - Brianna Wiest

Self-sabotage comes from
irrational fear

It’s easier to act your way into a new way of thinking rather than think your way into a new way of acting,

As children, routine gives us a feeling of safety. As adults, it gives us a feeling of purpose.
Interestingly enough, those two feelings are more similar than you’d think (at least, their origin is the same). It’s the same thing as the fear of the unknown: As children, we don’t know which way is left, let alone why we’re alive or whether or not a particular activity we’ve never done before is going to be scary or harmful. When we’re adults engaging with routine-ness, we can comfort ourselves with the simple idea of “I know how to do this, I’ve done it before.