Human opinions are formed by accident and hardened by repetition. We cling to acquired opinions only because they give the illusion of being wise opi… - Vernon Howard

Take disturbance as an awakening sign that you misunderstand something you assumed you understood.

You are not your cluster of memorized ideas about yourself. Awareness of this dissolves both the cluster and the belief that others can control you. If you have a self-image of being a desirable person, others can control you by flattering it, but can they control if you have no such image?

If you hand a man a lemon and tell him that its sourness lies outside the lemon, he will think you are joking. Yet, with a perfectly straight face, that same man will tell you that his sour life is caused by external events. When will man learn that he is the cause of his own feelings for either happiness or anxiety?