The reality of the other person is not in what he reveals to you, but in what he cannot reveal to you. Therefore, if you would understand him, listen not to what he says but rather to what he does not say.

ليست حقيقة الانسان بما يظهره لك , بل بما لا يستطيع أن يظهره لك , لذلك اذا أردت أن تعرفه فلا تصغ الى ما يقوله بل الى ما لايقوله

Don't just listen to what the person says; watch what they do. Because what people say is one thing, but what they do reveals the truth about them.

He who does not understand your silence will probably not understand your words.

From your place of darkness observe the defects of others. See but do not appear to see; listen but do not seem to listen; know but do not let it be known that you know. When you perceive the trend of a man's words, do not change them, do not correct them, but examine them and compare them with the results.

He who knows does not speak; he who speaks does not know.

He who speaks does not know; he who knows does not speak

No matter how honestly you open up to someone, there are still things you cannot reveal.

The most important thing a man has to tell you is what he’s not telling you,” he said. “The most important thing he has to say is what he’s trying not to say.

6303. He that speaks the Thing he should not,
Shall hear the Thing he would not.

I need to listen well so that I hear what is not said.
Thuli Madonsela1

Sometimes you hear a person speak the truth and you know that they are speaking the truth. But you also know that they have not heard themselves, do not know what they have said: do not know that they have revealed much more than they have said. This may be why the truth remains, on the whole, so rare.

a man is more of a man because of what he does not say than what he does say.

It’s not what a person says but what he does that reveals his true character.