how do we start to retune our attention towards things that are solution-oriented, things that help us build? And this is a hard time for that. We've… - Adrienne Maree Brown

How do we ensure that the survivors' needs are actually getting met? What would actually create the boundaries and the spaciousness that we're trying to give to survivors for their healing, while also helping the person who has created this offense to break the cycle of harm within them? And some of what seems to help is to have a sense that all of us get harmed, and all of us commit harms.

Pleasure activism asserts that we all need and deserve pleasure and that our social structures must reflect this. In this moment, we must prioritize the pleasure of those most impacted by oppression.

I remind myself I can't be good at something I'm doing for the first time, and that reminder helps me humble into learning mode.