What one man can do, another man can do. - Robert A. Glover

■​If I can hide my flaws and become what I think others want me to be, then I will be loved, get my needs met, and have a problem-free life

Choose one area in which you have been out of integrity. Identify your fear that keeps you from telling the truth or doing the right thing. Reveal this situation to a safe person. Then go and tell the truth or do what you have to do to make the situation right. Tell yourself you can handle it. Since telling the truth may create a crisis for you or others, have faith that everyone involved will survive this crisis.

They're really not trying to protect anyone from harm, they're just trying to keep their world smooth and under control. I